Selena Doggett-Jones

Selena Doggett-Jones

Phone: 07766 331 845

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I am an integrative relationship/psychosexual therapist which means I specialise in relationship, sex and intimacy problems.  I have also worked for many years as clinical nurse specialist in sexual and reproductive health.  I now work privately having spent many years managing and providing a psychosexual service for Whittington NHS Foundation Trust and working as a nurse specialist and therapist with CNWL NHS Foundation Trust.

Most people have anxieties about intimacy and sexual difficulties at some point in their lives.  Psychosexual and relationship therapy offers the opportunity to discuss your concerns with a therapist specially trained in this area of work in a safe, supportive and confidential environment.  I always offer an initial ten minute introductory phone consultation, free of charge.

I see a very varied client group for both short and longer term therapy.  I work with diverse gender identities and sexual orientations, cultures, religious beliefs, and social backgrounds.  I have also worked with people on the autistic spectrum and those with learning difficulties and mental health problems. The age range is equally varied from age sixteen to clients in their eighties and older.

If you are currently in a relationship you will be encouraged to attend sessions with your partner because sexual and relationship difficulties rarely ‘belong’ to one partner(s) or the other.  If you don’t have a current partner(s) or he/she is unwilling or unable to attend, you can still benefit from attending alone.

The problems I address are often as a result of relationship issues, disabilities, cultural and religious differences, long term chronic illness, surgery, lack of education about anatomy and physiology, fear and anxiety about lack of experience or unrealistic expectations, past history of trauma, infertility, concerns about gender, and sexuality. People may be worried about their personal sexual practises, likes and dislikes or those of their partners.  Problems can also be related to sexual compulsivity, bereavement and menopause. They can be related to pain during sex or erectile dysfunction.  Don’t hesitate to seek help, no matter what your concern may be, and if it is not in my scope of practice I will think with you about an appropriate source of help and support.

 

My work

I describe my approach to therapy as integrative. This approach allows for multiple viewpoints and interpretations and it could be argued is the most ethical and neutral approach.  It obliges me to continue learning from colleagues, further study, supervision, and my own personal therapy.  With this approach I have to keep up the process of integration and self awareness.  Integration questions certainty of any one ‘truth’ and allows people to consider what might be the more useful or helpful interpretation.  I will ask clients “is there another way of looking at this behaviour, situation or feeling?”   It also takes into account the individual needs of the client.  The most important thing agreed by therapists across all modalities is the relationship between client and therapist.  The client needs to feel safe, trusted, listened to and heard.  They also, of course, need to trust the therapist especially when disclosing concerns about their most intimate problems relating to sex and intimacy.

In couple therapy I regard the couple as the client and the relationship as co created.  We look at improving communication and helping partners to recognise each others triggers and gain an insight and an understanding of their partner’s world.  This insight can engender empathy and acceptance which in turn promotes healing.  Encouraging partners to practise fully attentive listening is one of the most powerful tools in couple work.  Couple therapy can also be about negotiating the ending of the relationship so that both partners have an appreciation of what has been positive, what they can take with them into the future and what they will be relieved to leave behind.

 

Training

2016    Diploma Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy. Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education, London

2015    The Fast Trauma and Phobia Cure. Human Givens College.

2105    Professional Certificate for the Use of Mindfulness in Therapy.  Mindfulness Institute, London.

2013    Diploma in Clinical Supervision and Consultancy.  NAOS Institute, London.

2010    PG Dip in Relationship Therapy (Psychosexual Therapy).  Relate Institute (accred. The University of Hull).

2006    Advanced Diploma in Women’s Health.  Middlesex University, London.

1997    Associate Degree in Nursing.  Beth Israel School of Nursing, New York City.

 

Professional Affiliations

COSRT accredited relationship/psychosexual therapist and supervisor

Associate member of The Faculty of Sexual and Reproductive Health

Clinical and Professional Practice tutor for UCL Medical School

 

I abide by the COSRT code of ethics.

 

Services offered

Short and long term therapy, face to face, by phone and Skype. Consultancy, supervision and training.

 

Client Group

Adults of all ages, genders and sexuality. Kink friendly.

 

Fees in Gower Street

£95 individual sessions

£105 couple sessions